Toxic parents – Their typical sentences and the damange they cause

First and foremost, very important: no one brings their children into this world with the intent of being bad parents to them. However, there are unfortunately parents, who become toxic to their children. And they don’t even notice it. They just keep going on with this very unhealthy behavior towards their children and wonder, what…

What is a Man-child & how to tell if you are one

Being born as a male doesn’t necessarily mean that the person becomes a Man, when he grows up. There are many men I see, who are acting as a man-child, even though they are already grown-up. When these man-children are in a relationship, it has a really unique pattern, both for the man and for…

Toxic women: how to recognize them & what to do about it

When it comes to harassment and abusive behavior between adults, most of the time the examples and stories are about men. However, this is absolutely not the full picture. Women can also be abusive and harass men –  I have seen this myself. It is a fact, that it happens from this angle as well;…

3 do’s and don’ts of creating a great online dating profile

Using the online dating apps I have encountered many interesting profiles. I have seen some that I couldn’t really understand why they existed at all. I have also seen some that were great and caught my attention – but these were the minorities, to be honest. It all starts by deciding what your aim is…

7 things every man can learn from my last (very) bad date

The other day I went on a date, which ended up being an interesting experience… Again. During this encounter I have managed to see such things that I hadn’t before; such things that I found useful for you Gentlemen to write about. So that you can ensure that you are not going to make these…

Top 5 epic dating fails of men – from a female perspective

Dating is an evergreen topic – both for men and women. When two people meet for the first time, there is only one chance for a first impression. This is why some encounters don’t even go further than the first occasion (even though it would sometimes be worth giving it a second chance). I personally have…

Are you living with a narcissist? Signs & solutions of this toxic relationship

Many people (unfortunately too many) live in relationship with a narcissistic person. Men and women likewise – as this is one of those things which doesn’t depend on whether you have XX or XY chromosomes. In my coaching practice I see many men and women struggling beside a narcissistic partner. And this struggle can be brutal….

Change and improvement articles’ compilation

Our whole life is about learning, change, self-improvement. Even if we don’t notice it at every moment, that’s still the case. It happens that we are consciously working on a topic, and sometimes it is ’being worked out’ in the background. Sometimes we cross the river of change easily, but sometimes we struggle with it….

Blocking behaviour mechanisms of the relationships

Relationship is an important topic in the lives of most people. Either because they are in one, or because they are not. A relationship, or the lack of one, reveals a lot about a person’s soul. Many suffer – either next to their partner or because they can’t find him. There are many thoughts and…

The types of motivation and their importance

No matter whether we are talking about just work or life in general, motivation plays a key role in advancing in any areas, in improving ourselves and also in feeling happy and content of what we do on a regular basis. There is life without motivation, but I would say it is more like sitting…

Self-confidence and emotions articles’ compilation

It would be so good to live in a world where everyone has their self-confidence at the maximum of the healthy level, where everyone is aware of their emotions, feelings and can communicate and manage them properly. Everyone’s lives would be much easier. In reality, however, this is not the case. Many people are unaware…

Narcissism and controlling people articles’ compilation

In all areas of our lives, we can meet people who make things difficult for us. There may be people in our family, at work, in our circle of friends with whom we are constantly in conflict. As everything happens for a reason, these situations are no exceptions either – you have to learn from…

The women’s coach perspective – my introduction on Menprovement

Dear Gentlemen, It is my pleasure to ‘meet’ you all here. It is great to see that on this platform you are all dedicated to your self-improvement and development. I truly believe that it is something we all need to strive for. To develop ourselves. To understand ourselves and the people around us better. This…

My dating articles’ compilation

Dating and writings about it is an important topic for all those who are looking for their partner. However, articles about dating can still be interesting for those as well who are actually in a relationship, just so that they can see what is happening ‘out there’ 🙂 Thinking about this, I created a compilation…

If the past pulls you back

We carry so much pain with us. The weight of difficult situations we have experienced in the past, the mental and emotional injuries we have suffered, and the events destroying our hearts are on our shoulders. And we are just moving forward on our way, not even noticing that it’s getting harder and harder to…

The trap of “… but what will others think”

Many have a desire to live a life where there is harmony and peace, there are no conflicts and everyone loves everyone. I think this is a very understandable desire of anyone, because when the opposite of these becomes real, it can have a big negative impact on the everyday life. Many times, however, I…

Coaching around the world – HCT has arrived to the USA

In the past years I have been lucky enough to work with people from all over the world. In the pre-Covid times I have delivered soft skills trainings in various countries of Europe, I could travel to Singapore and Myanmar to do the same with Asian audiences. I had the chance to be part of…

As a grown-up becoming an Adult

Every child grows up once. This is an unmistakable fact. The other question, however, is whether the grown-up child will actually become an Adult in the coming years of their life, or if they will remain in the so-called Child state. This is a much more delicate topic, and many adults in this situation often…

There you go Gentlemen, it can be done well!

What exactly? Dating and getting to know someone. I have written various articles recently in which I told you about how it is possible to destroy a date, the process of getting to know someone. Let it be a simple chat discussion, an extreme narcissistic dating partner or a ‘floating’ psychological game. Fortunately, this is…

Experiencing a real-life abusive relationship – Anna’s story

In one of my previous articles I have already written about how it is to live in a psychologically abusive relationship, how important it is to realise the situation the earliest possible and for the “victim” the stand up for herself. Below, I would like to share with you Anna’s story, who lived in such…

A real-life interesting chat talk…

This real life chat talk has actually been experienced by me personally. Despite being a very short conversation, it made me think… Raise your hand if you have been in a similar situation before 😉 “- Hello, Beautiful. – Hello, how are you? – All good, and you? – All is great here, thanks a…

Experiences of a Speed Dating

I have heard a lot about Speed Dating, all types of opinions. It depends on a lot of factors how a participant perceives such an occasion. The own past relationship experiences, the own openness, the own wishes, the people attending – all of these form the personal filter for the individual’s experience. Therefore, I decided…

Extreme date with an extreme narcissist

When it comes to narcissistic connections, I have seen and experienced a lot myself. However, what happened to me on a date now, surprised me even… With the gentleman we got to know each other through the internet and after a short chatting time he asked me to meet in person – I was in,…

Psychological abuse in the relationship

If abuse is mentioned, we always think of the physical abuse. However, there is another story, which doesn’t leave visible wounds, cannot be seen by your eyes at first sight. We might think, that this one hurts less then. However, unfortunately, this is not the case. Psychological abuse can hurt the same way, can make…

The me-time – a.k.a how to be yourself in the relationship?

In a happy relationship becoming one with your partner is a fantastic thing. In such a situation though, it can certainly be a challenging mission to still be yourself and not to put yourself under him or under the unity of you two. Many people actually have the fear of loosing themselves in a relationship,…

5 things you can learn about yourself through your dog

Our dogs – as any other family members – can teach us many things. Through them we can get to know ourselves more deeply, as many challenges situations can occur. Those who already had a dog know exactly how important the new family member can become. They can bring a lot of joy and happiness…

Reasons of the self-confidence crisis and the recovery process

I see how many people are in self-confidence crisis. No matter how much they have all the abilities to have their self-confidence at the healthy level, it is not the case. They feel that they are not enough, that they are worthless, weak, ugly, untalented. I wish they could feel what we see from outside!…

‘Whatever I do, I cannot make my partner happy…’

Tough sentence. Difficult situation. And you are in it, day by day. You do everything, to see a smile on your partner’s face, to feel that they are satisfied. You invest extra energy in doing things that they expect, to behave the way they like it, to surround them or surprise them with things they…

Do you think you don’t deserve it to be good?

You are wrong, my friend. Sooo wrong. You do deserve it to be good. To be easy. To be flawless. To be painless. To be happy. You deserve it all. You deserve to be your true self! I know, I know – the circumstances are not allowing for you to have it all. But what…

5 ways how visualisation can help you during a coaching session

On a coaching session many techniques can be and are worth to be used, which help solving the actual topic of the coachee. Of course, it is always the personality and the issue of the client that determines the methods to be applied, however one of my favourites is the visualisation. I summarised my reasons…

What are all these changes around us?

The question is great and fair. Everything changes around us, things are upside down. Whatever was before, ceased to exist, or at least has changed a lot. Whatever we considered stable around ourselves, has changed, or has been changing continuously. However, what is outside, is inside as well and the other way around too. Things…

Why do you always bump into the unreachables?

Ladies and Gents, this is for both of you now. I believe many of you can find yourselves in the following example. You are craving for love, you wish to find your partner. Very-very much and even more and more as the months and years are passing. However, whenever you bump into someone, that person…

Saturn rules, time of the retreat

Retreat. It is not advisable to do anything else, even though we would like to. Saturn rules. Whether we like it or not, it doesn’t care at all. Me watching my first-ever online live concert, the 1ső Pesti Rackák in the closed Szimpla Kert bar without live audience, I was thinking about how can we…

Manly women, womanly men

It is very interesting that there are so many cases out there that a woman is behaving in a masculine way and the men are ‘cissy’. Or at least these women see them this way. In reality, however, the other pole of women becoming more manly is that men become more womanly eventually. But Ladies,…

When the Man throws a bone…

Gentlemen out there, this is for you now, after my last article for the Ladies.  In the past days, weeks, months, I encountered with so many of these situations, that I cannot help writing about it already. You Gentlemen, living your lives, either in a relationship or being single, it doesn’t really matter from my…

Starving for crumbs of attention

This for you Ladies out there, who are living a life in which you do not get the well-deserved attention from the men around you. Maybe you are not in a relationship, but maybe you are living in one. Either way, lacking the attention from the men is so easy, unfortunately. In case you don’t…

Coping techniques regarding the controlling people of our lives

In my previous article I wrote about the controlling people in the different areas of our lives. It is one thing to realise, that we are facing such situations from time to time, however, being in them leads to one obvious end result and action. We need to solve them. We need to manage these situations….

Growing up un-loved

It is a difficult situation. To grow up while not getting love, or at least not the way you would need it. Or maybe your parents mean something completely else regarding “love” – acting upon their own inner injuries -, compared to what would be healthy. In your childhood you don’t notice it, of course….

Start the new year cleansed

Today, on the last day of the year it is worth consciously let go of the hardships of the past year and start the new one cleansed. For this, I recommend you a quick visualiation exercise. To do it you don’t have to go to deep mediation for hours or send away everyone from home…

The controlling people of our lives

You can meet controlling people in many areas of your life. In your romantic relationship, at your workplace, in your family. Sometimes it can be tricky to realize that you are facing one, as it can be misunderstood as a type of caring, showing interest or helping. But all in all, what you can feel…

Changing yourself and your life – Why so painful?

Changing is a hard topic, really. Most of the times, we are so comfortable with our own routines, habits, work, maybe even with our own selves.  But the real life is not about having everything the same way all the time. Life is about changing. Life is about evolving. Life is about learning. Learning about…

Helping others and accepting help

I meet more and more people in my life, who are eager to help others. Almost anyone at any time can turn to them, they are always there for them. They listen, give advices, offer help, find solution options. Even if these people can sometimes say no, they feel deep remorse. They feel guilty for…

As a wolf in a relationship

I saw a beautiful picture. A wolf among the Native Americans. Sometime long ago. She was with the people voluntarily. She voluntarily decided to go with them, to accompany them. She was free, yet a member of the team. She was loyal, yet she remained herself. She walked among the people being full of self-confidence,…

The sphere of the soul and who sees what from it

While having a conversation with a friend of mine it popped into my mind that people and their souls are actually like a sphere. Inside the sphere there is a clean, white, glowing inner ball that reflects the pure, true soul. This, however, is surrounded on the outside by an uneven, crumbly surface that symbolizes…

Cross this bridge only when you get there!

Two of my dear friends inspired this article. We walked in a fantastic park and talked about the big things of life. How we are, how we are going to be, how we imagine our future, what we would like our future to look like, what we want to achieve. What I’ve noticed lately is…

The danger of the ‘love-chocolates’

More and more often I see how much the people are lacking the solid inner self-confidence. It is practically a fact, that the self-confidence and self-evaluation of most people is not on the maximum of the healthy level. This is how we grew up, how we socialised, how our habit system was created. In the…

My own five stress relief methods

No matter how much we like to spend our lives in peace, from time to time a stressful situation or period finds us. It is the same with me personally as well. What I consider important at such times first of all, is to be able to regain our calmness. And then, of course, drawing…

Expectations, that we should let go of

Expectations, or we can also say, ideas. In connection with someone or something. We don’t necessarily consciously expect those certain things to turn out the way they are in our head, that’s why we can call them ideas. A new situation may come into our life, that we think will be so bad. Then it…

Taking on the role of the Saviour in your relationship

The Saviour role is certainly familiar to some of you. When you entering a relationship, next to your physically or emotionally abusive partner, you feel that you need to save them. After all, you see the good in him, you see that under / behind the lot of hurting, emotional blackmailing, emotional terror, maybe even…

Everyone can only see what they are ready for…

I found a very interesting article on the Spanish-language site El Librero de Gutenberg, entitled “No one can be forced to see what they are not yet prepared for” (No podemos obligar a nadie a ver aquello para lo que aún no está preparado). As I was reading it, several occasions came to my mind…

Meditation – the way I do it

The very first time I encountered with meditation was on a spiritual course – if I am not mistaken. It was a guided meditation. I had to sit in lotus sitting (haha, sure, I was glad if I can do the cross-legged sitting without any major pain), be very transcendent amongst 10 other people (ahham,…

How to notice when you are dealing with “a-holes”?

If we notice beforehand, or have a hunch that in a new workplace or in a new position there is a danger of working together with an a-hole, there are some ways how we can help ourselves. With the following techniques you can make sure whether this is the case or not. And if yes,…

Workplace conflicts with the “assholes”

First of all, I would like to come clean, that the strong expression used in the title is being used from the professional literature, it is not invented by me 🙂 Robert I. Sutton in his book called ‘The Asshole Survival Guide’ uses this expression for those people at workplaces whom we are happy to…

Narcissistic…? OMG…

When you hear the word narcissistic, you might see a self-obsessed, arrogant person in front of you who tends to step over others for their own good. Seeing this, you start to pack your things and run away for good… What if someone told us that we are one? Maybe we run to the nearest…